the VIRTUAL vs the REAL

In this era, many people are engaged in social networking sites which serve to be their tool to find new friends, new love ones and other reasons. If you are living in this time, you will be probably tagged as a geek if you don’t have any accounts on this websites: friendster, multiply, facebook etc. But the question is, is the quality of friendship online and in reality the same?

Now look closer… in social websites, people upload their best pictures and use the most beautiful words to describe themselves in their profile, on the other hand, in the real world, you can look at poeple without the touch of a photoshop. In friendster and multiply you can read blogs and discover what the person is feeling, in reality, the person you are talking to is more candid, no editing of words.

Bottom line? People pretend and raise their standards for the acceptance of others. Is that what you call online friendship? Educate me please, because the traditional friend I know doesn’t sort who’d invited him\her in his\her pending friend invites, he\she doesn’t give you testimonials but does know you better and lastly, a real friend doesn’t mind if you have a good profile and primary photo, cause he\she looks deeper. Now tell me, which friend is better, the virtual or the real?

EXPECTATIONS ARE NOT BAD AFTER ALL

I remember my friend telling me that attractions and expectations are bad, you can hurt yourself badly by simply expecting from your attractions…is it really what we attract is what we really expect? Like in science, attractions between bonds may be positive or negative. And in real life, positive or negative attraction, we predict something out of the certain attraction and that is what we call expectation.

Try to remember opening your friendster account with lots of strangers who want to invite you as a friend. Would you be happy if this hot girl\guy in the picture invites you in his\her account? Or this geeky person invites you to be his friend? Think… Easy, of course you’ll invite first the one who caught our attention, but if we realize, these people, whether hot or not, are all strangers.

That is what I mean, you put positive expectations to things that attract you, but on the other hand, negative expectation for the things that doesn’t attracts you.You draw higher expectations to those who attract you, but when your expectations fail, you get depress. But when you expect less on things that doesn’t attracts you, then it overdo your expectations, you become happy.

Now tell me, what is better between the two? You are free to choose things and people to be attracted to, that is your prerogative as humans. But you are also free to see the real character in every person you meet without basing it with its appearance and the end, you’ll see that expectations are not bad after all.

GUMDROPS, MILK AND CEREALS

When I was a child, I remember going to the grocery wherein I saw this pack of gumdrops that I want so much but it happened that my mom didn’t have sufficient budget to buy me one. Maybe rich kids back at that time cannot relate to what I’m talking about. But do you remember the feeling? It is the feeling wherein you want something so bad but you don’t have any means to get that obsession. Maybe this time that I have my own allowance, I can buy as many gumdrops that I would like to eat. But at that time, I really felt so horrible, what I only did is to lie in the floor, throw tantrums and shout. Maybe this time and at this age… that scene is very tantamount on not buying the hippest pants, not being updated to the latest gadgets, falling in love to someone who loves another person and a lot more.

Let’s face it, it is very depressing and can terribly hurt us. But what can we do? Allow me to look back once more. What did I do when my mom failed to buy me my most favorite gumdrop? Well, I cried a lot, stopped and smiled once again. Because when I looked into the grocery basket, I saw milk and cereals etc. On second thought, my mom did buy me something better than gumdrops. In short, I just accepted what I had and what I don’t have.

Like in life, we always focus on things that we don’t have in return we tend to ignore the things that does exist with us. It is not wrong to dream of something and wish to have it, but it is better to accept what you have and make the most out of it. After all, gumdrops only make your tooth ache. Just kidding … Life is beautiful, live it well. :)

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